Cultivating Worth In A World Of Value
Today I feel like an overblown balloon wearing a blonde Willem DaFoe wig. My brain is cozied up against the backs of my eyes and the pressure is not welcome. I’m dreaming of lavender clouds over a softly snoring sea.
I’m trying to muster up the energy to write about value, but I keep coming up short. In today’s world of Instagram likes and Twitter followers, it’s a complicated subject for each one of us connected people. It's complicated, and also I have a headache.
My ego has such a wildly unchecked view of what it means to have value—I must get more likes, more shares, more views in order to be recognized as a valuable human in this world.
But the reality is that there is not one person among us that has a greater or lesser value than you or I. Everyone’s only true possession is their own life, and they can’t buy another. They can prolong it, they can decorate it, but they cannot own more than one.
Your life is priceless.
So, knowing that, it’s time to look at things like Instagram likes as sprinkles on top of a kickass cake (you’re the cake, you’ve always been the cake). They are the response to your time and energy, but not an indication of your true worth.
In business, you can use social metrics and traffic analytics all day every day to determine the value of your marketing and ROI on different initiatives, but people are not products. There are no numbers that can really measure us.
If you’re looking for proof of your value, ask your friends. If you’re in a room full of strangers, acknowledge someone else’s value by being kind, and they will likely acknowledge yours.
Other lives are priceless, too.
The other side to this coin is that if our life is priceless, then that means every person around us carries the immense value of a human life with them as well. What are you doing to protect, to love, to support, to share with these other priceless beings? Are you celebrating them?
Or are you caught up in your own numbers to realize that there’s someone in your life that could use a phone call reminder?
There is a difference between worth and value.
Value is determined by someone, about something. Worth is intrinsic and cannot be negotiated.
So, instead of counting my likes I’ll focus on whether or not I enjoyed taking and sharing the photo. Instead of watching my follower count, I’ll focus more on my interactions with people who are interested in what I’m doing, with people who I know and love.
In my current state of exhaustion & ache, I'm afraid not a lot of this post makes structural sense.
But I’ll leave you with this: at birth you were given a voucher for one life, and there’s a limit of one per customer. Don’t waste it, and don’t take your immense worth for granted.